When was the last time you actually walked away from all of it?
The noise. Blinking cursors, beeping notifications,
I mean... really didn’t have that cell phone on your person or in reach?
Or that Apple Watch? Yeah...that too.
Insert a minute of silence here. Go ahead, I dare ya!
Ah! Slow exhale. If you actually did it, you would feel a different awareness.
Let me address some Selfcare confusion because we all need attunement and reminders. We can all feel wiped out a little too often. Like our clarity is foggy and slowed down.
When that happens, remember the IT tagline...
"Have you tried turning it on and off again?"
We all know this is the trick when tech has gremlins, freezes or goes kaput.
Yet we forget this trick is what our own nervous system needs daily!
(Like when you feel a little zoom fragmented.)
Do you have a daily practice of truly unplugging?
When I reference self-care it’s more than 10, 000 steps a day, a pedicure or a clean shave. It’s not just presenting well or only about the physical body; sure exercise is essential but quality sleep, playfulness and active rest is also as essential as vita d and b12.
We don’t credit play and rest as adults. And it’s a fatal mistake to our well-being. Pleasure, joy, beauty, downtime... these are all essential ingredients to holistic wellness.
Are you getting enough of any of these things? What about joyful movement? What area of your life do you most neglect?
We get stuck in ruts. Open your eyes to see things differently, reawaken. Travel used to do this for us(and is starting to again).
This is essentially why we LOVE to travel. It awakens our senses our aliveness. We feel braver, more sensual and more vitality. Both Relaxed and excited. (Which is a flow state).
Our thinking becomes clearer we are roomier and more optimistic in our outlook. We return more appreciative for our amazing life and opportunities and home. The lightness of Appreciation always dissolves darkness.
Appreciation = gratitude.
These energies when really FELT not just thought, deeply shift us. It’s allowing yourself to be moved by gratitude for your own life. Your loved ones. Your morning latte. The night sky. The evening chorus of frogs.
Travel is a circuit breaker in our stale thinking and dulled routine. We simultaneously unplug waning energy and plug back in fully charged.
The next best thing is our imagination. Open your channels of creativity or find someone that stimulates you into new possibilities.
Go to a gallery. A science exhibit. An archeological dig. Do a science experiment. Research a secret passion you never have time for. Take yourself on a trip to your own inner secret world.
Have a conversation with someone you have nothing in common with and stay open and curious about them.
So much is happening all the time, we often don’t get enough space and quiet for integration and exploration of our inner truth.
Yet, space and quiet are essential for self-care.
How do you make space for it? How do you broaden your self-regard, trust and compassion? Set boundaries? Allow some silence into your day?
Don’t agonize, simply organize yourself.
How gentle are you with your mistakes and disappointments? Could you be kinder to yourself?
What’s the belief that prevents this?
Ambitious drive does not have to equal relentless and unforgiving. Self-care and compassion will lead you to greater success however you define that. And make sure to Define it through your own lens.
Divine living is in the design.
Get intentional with your life, how you live your days is how your life unfolds. It matters. How we do one thing is how we do everything.
So master daily self-care and watch your inner garden blossom. Water the seeds and dreams you want to cultivate.
Take inspired action on your wellness. This means not just external goals, it must include:
- learning to unplug, especially when you are stuck or sluggish or stressed out.
(And, getting good at it will avoid those undesirable states.)
Learn to do nothing well at least 15 mins a day guilt-free. Reboot the mission.
(When Your computer forces its shutdowns to reboot and update, instead of the ?#@*&%! diatribe, —try to take notice and do the same reboot!)
Breathe deeply and quell your stress with slow exhalations and a few closed eye body scans,
Drink water; take each sip mindfully and remember you are nourishing and cleansing the inner ecosystem and mirroring in your body what you want to do with the mind.
What about a Creative reboot?
Simply try something new.
Look, we all need reminders, we can all fall off the track of great self-care.
Focus on the long game. Remember it’s progress over perfection.
Please be kind to yourself. This is the greatest gain you will ever make in your quality of life and relationships allowing greater peace and wellness In your body. Your Compassion will always be incomplete if it doesn’t include yourself.
Start with unplugging. Simply turn it on and off again. Shut yours eyes. Exhale.
Ah! See how amazing that feels?!
Now put your feet up for a minute...
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